Do Yourself a Favor…

The other day I read the best article by Martha Beck, “To You, From You,” published in the December 2014, Volume 15, Number 12 issue of The Oprah Magazine.  Martha and I have something in common – we both have a dislike of the holiday gifting ritual found at this time of year.  Don’t get me wrong, I think a few presents are fine.  I just do not advocate going into debt over a holiday – every year.  How many times have you felt drained from all the gift giving at Christmas?

Martha has a great solution. For every gift that you give someone else – also give a gift to yourself.  Nothing extravagant or ridiculous, simply something that you really want.  What do you really want?

presents (Image credit: Presents)

According to Martha’s article, a poll was taken on Facebook to find out what are the best gifts that you can give yourself?  Interestingly, almost all of the respondents asked for the same simple, inexpensive gifts: time, less-stuff, and acceptance.  These are some pretty basic requirements, and if you think about them they apply to all of us.

Do yourself a favor – give yourself permission to accept the following gifts:

1.  TIME.  Time to do what you want, when you want to do it.  Try 10 minutes a day sitting silently, meditating, praying, whatever gives you inner peace.  Don’t squirm or think about what you have to do, or what email needs to be sent, or what bill to pay.  Just sit there quietly for 10 minutes.  Set a timer on your stove or phone so that you can experience 10 whole minutes to yourself.  It is pure bliss!

2.  LESS STUFF.  I loved this idea.  The absence of things really is a good thing, even though it seems like we spend our whole lives accumulating stuff.  The last couple of years, after our last move to Florida, I purged things that I had been dragging around with me for years.  I cried when I got rid of some of old books, although I made sure they went to a good cause.  I found out that if I stored something in a bin in the garage for a year and never went out there to get it for anything, I really did not need it.  I donated many things to charitable organizations, or friends, or family in need.  Less stuff = less cleaning!  A real plus in my book.

3.  ACCEPTANCE.  What a wonderfully novel idea, give yourself permission to accept who you are, and who you have become without criticism or blaming yourself for past decisions.  When we attack ourselves we accomplish nothing except tearing down our own self-esteem, which only demoralizes us to the point of no return. Stop that.  Accept that you will do some things wrong in this life.  Learn from those mistakes and move on… just don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over again.  That is redundant and will cause you more pain.

The end result from the acceptance of these gifts to yourself is a sense of gratitude and self-respect.   I personally cannot think of anything I want more than that from myself, for myself.

Many thanks to Colline’s Blog and her Gratitude Project who reminds me each week how thankful for life I really am.

Gratitude Sunday

Thanks for reading and stopping by.  I love seeing all of you!

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  1. “Do yourself a favor and forgive anyone that has anything against you. Do it as an act of faith and trust God to change and heal your emotions. Pray for your enemies and never say another unkind thing about them. It is the only way you can move past the pain and begin to heal.”

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  2. Yes!!! This is great! I have young ones and still do a lot of gifts for them, but tapering down and focus on time together–enjoying life, not just getting stuff…a lot of which just clutters the home!


  3. It’s scary to think of the folk that will be in debt after the festive season. That isn’t the spirit of Christmas.
    We will have a simple, quiet Christmas and I will love every minute.
    A lovely post Colleen. You’re an inspiration. Thanks. 😊

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  4. Having a good clear out of items I no longer need or use always gives me such a huge lift, Colleen. Not only do I get more space (and as you say have to do less cleaning) but those items go on to people or organisations who need and use then.
    I’d love 10 minutes of pure silence but I’m just to addictive to the computer to even consider giving myself 10 minutes. Maybe one day I will 🙂 but for now reading and writing give me the peace we all require as humans.

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  5. These are all excellent gifts! I think every single one helps to give us a better peace of mind and put us in a better place. At least that’s how it feels to me. I have to remember to do more of this.

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  6. #2 really resonates with me. There are some boxes in my attic that haven’t been unpacked since the day we moved to this house years ago. I want to really divest myself of these ‘things’. Less is best will be my motto for 2015, with the notable exception of musical gear, which I can never have enough of. 😀

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        1. Excellent comparison – letting go. I have never been much of a clutter person. I can’t think if there is too much stuff laying around. Even my desk has to be organized. 🙂 I am so excited to see your new website. I know it will be awesome. I have more pics I will email to you.

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  7. Excellent idea. And clearing out stuff too. I’m hoping to get rid of the garage (a pre-fab thing falling to bits) so I need to clear it out…Just waiting for better weather…)


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