Mindful Monday – Stop Worrying

Welcome to Mindful Monday! Each week I try to self-discover new or sometimes old things about myself. I have found that being mindful encompasses the act of being watchful, aware, wary, heedful, alert, careful, or attentive, in whatever area in my life I feel it applies to, as I attempt to live in the present.

Let me ask you a question. Are you a worrier? You know what I am talking about… you can’t sleep at night because your thoughts keep going round and round. Your brain refuses to turn off – it just does not want to shut down! You end up spending the night tossing and turning, worrying about things that are usually out of your control anyway. I know I am a worrier, and that is something that I have been working on.

I think as writers, we tend to live much of our time inside our heads, working on characters, plots, and dialog. Our ability to do that is what distinguishes us as writers. It is a strength that we need to hone to perfect our craft. However, if we live in our head too much, we begin to focus inwards and forget that there is a whole world out there for us to engage with and enjoy.

This is where mindfulness comes in. When we are only stuck in our heads, we are worrying about the future and our past. We are drawing on past experiences that enrich our stories that we are trying to share. We dig up empathy from the bottom of our souls to supplement our words so that our readers feel our joy or pain. In other words, we are only focusing inwards. We are not really living in the present.

I worry. I fret over things that I cannot change because they are out of my control. The things I can change, I deal with effectively. It occurred to me a few weeks ago that all this worry does nothing for me. So, I started looking deeper at why I worry about all these useless things. I realized that if I let them go, I could sleep better at night.

This realization was not easy at first. I started small and found some things that seem to help me deal with my worrying woes:

  • I like to spend some time living in the moment each day. In other words, get out of your head. Go for a walk!

     

  • Try meditation. You never know, with practice it could be something that works for you. I find inspiration from Jade the Mystic. He has many helpful tips on his website.

     

  • When I start worrying about something I try to realize that my thoughts are just thoughts. They aren’t real. Only my life is real.

     

  • I like to look at what is going on around me. This is when I pay attention to my husband, my family, and my dogs, my garden, etc. I have to leave the world I create in my head behind in order to enjoy my life.

     

  • I use all 5 senses to view the world. Notice the aroma of your coffee or tea. Feel the coolness of your freshly laundered sheets on your skin. Pay attention to what makes you feel good about yourself.

     

  • I have started to avoid electronics and social media for a portion of my day. I try to interact with my friends in person. If you have coworkers this would be a great way to interact also.

     

And when those nagging worries creep back into my mind, I acknowledge them. I think about them for a minute and then let them go. I try to think of my worries as a bubble. I pop them and they are gone.

Image Credit: HuffPost Healthy Living

And, if that doesn’t work. Laugh at yourself. Sometimes something as simple as that is enough to get you thinking about something else. Good luck and remember:

Don’t Worry. Be Happy!

What do you do to stop worrying?

Remember, this is not a challenge.  This is an offering of support.  If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday goals you can do so in the comments, or on a separate post of your own making.  If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so, however, it is not necessary.  My main objective here is to give and get support to become more mindful of the things I take for granted in my life.

I wish you all peace and joy this week!

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60 thoughts on “Mindful Monday – Stop Worrying

  1. Wonderful post 🙂 I’ve only been practicing mindfulness for about a year now and it has really helped me with my battle with depression. I love your tips here. Thank you! I will return for more of these 🙂

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  2. “…the best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today’s work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future.”

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  4. Thanks so much, Colleen. This post spoke to me on so many levels and the info graphic is great. I liked the positive note at the end, with the catchy tune I’ve always enjoyed! I’m a born worrier, but I work at it. I try to let it go and have developed techniques like meditation. It’s not always easy, especially when I’m struggling with depression, but I keep fighting. ❤

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  5. Great post. I’m a pretty big worrier and have a lot of trouble stopping it. It’s a feeling that I know something will go wrong, so I want to be prepared. Then I just focus on what’s not working and get caught in that mindset. I used to go off to listen to music when these moments happened, but one kind of needs the privacy and ‘out’ to use that. Makes me wonder how much worrying is based around anxiety that can be made worse by people with good intentions. Mostly those that think ‘calm down and stop stressing’ is a magical spell to relax a person.

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    • I think it is a personal thing and only you can find what works for you, Charles. We all have ways of coping. Too much worry really affects our health. The only answer comes from within yourself. Only you can change what works for you. 💖😊

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        • I remember those days well. We had 5 kids: yours, mine, and ours. I have no idea how we made it through. Ron and I traded off working/staying at home – not by choice, just the way it was. I used to take a hot bath each night. That was my time away from everyone. Apparently it worked. I survived. If you don’t take care of you who will? 😊

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          • Good question. I actually don’t get any quiet time to myself until 11 PM, which is around the time my eyes decide to punch out for the day. Downside to having a full, busy house and the phone going off so often. I say as someone calls to take about door-to-door meat delivery. Apparently, claiming to be a vegetarian isn’t a good enough excuse to get them to hang up. Should try claiming to be a cannibal next time.

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          • Ha, ha! That is a good one. Your humor will get you through this. I miss all those crazy times when our house was full of kids. It was rough, but I miss them all. Keep smiling Charles. You help us through our days too. 😁

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  6. I love this statemen: “When I start worrying about something I try to realize that my thoughts are just thoughts. They aren’t real. Only my life is real.” Thoughts are only imaginations. And in the end we worry about the imagination. How silly to waste our time like that instead ot enjoying what is real! In substituting imagination for gratitude we shift towards what’s real!

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    • Erika, look how many years it took me to figure that out. Something as simple as that. Especially when we can’t do anything about most of the things we worry about. Now, if we worry about things we can fix, well that is just silly. Quit worrying and get up and go fix them. It is that immobility we must always battle. Easy to say, until someone finds that they cannot do those things, no matter how hard they want to. I really do try to deal with what is real and not perceived in my brain. ❤

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  7. of an injury, I had to retire so I decided to be a full time writer. But I live by myself. I didn’t want to spend too much time all by myself. I make sure to spend time with friends and I joined MeetUp.com a web page that lists social groups. I’ve joined several groups and am having fun. The activity keeps me from getting stale and it refreshes my creativity.

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  8. We can be so much harder on ourselves than we’d be on others. Trying to think of what we’d tell others if they came to us with our negative thoughts or our worries sometimes helps. Great tips, Colleen.

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  9. Wonderful post, one that I truly enjoyed and savored. Your post is very timely for me as I am dealing with several cats who are showing symptoms of dis-ease. It is challenging to care for one cat who is not feeling well, much less several all at the same time. Not only do I care for them, but my husband and I diagnose and treat with Homeopathy and herbs unless there are conditions that are above what we know we can handle. That is a lot of responsibility. When I feel tired and discouraged and at times scared, that is when I fall out of mindfulness, a way I INTEND to live Life. Practicing Yoga helps tremendously as does my photography, gardens, and my cats. Bless you for these words today. As I prepare for sleep this night, I will slip into my “non-being state” and firmly state I am free from worry. Love, Amy ❤

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    • I am sending you lots of strength to cope with your sweet kitty babies, Amy. I want to work more on my yoga also. I know that is a fabulous stress release, and we all need that. Thank you for your sweet comments, and I wish you all the best this week.

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  10. Couldn’t agree anymore with you about this Colleen. Talking breaks during the day away from the computer is a must for me and has been since I started that blog diet I talk about every so often. The thought of life rushing past me without me taking a look at it and participating in it is frightening. I can’t do that with my head stuck to a computer or tablet screen.

    I ‘m also going to start taking longer breaks away from the computer starting next week. It’s a challenge I’ve given myself as I am curious to see what the results will be.

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      • I have a system in place and this may help, Colleen.

        I spend no more than 2 hours a day reading blog posts and I read them in this order.

        Those from bloggers who support me the most, first.
        Then those that support me.
        Then anything else.

        Once I run out of time, I then write. If I find I have some more spare time after writing then I will go back to reading more blog posts. Those I don’t read get deleted at the end of the day.
        I know it may sound harsh but I hope that the bloggers who support me the most will see in turn that I am continuing to support them.

        Of course bloggers can move up and down my list, and I unfollow any blogs that never come back to visit me.

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        • I like your plan, Hugh. I have got to do something like this also. I know that we can still follow blogs, but not get all the emails from them. I have got to look at that. You and many others support me the most and that is what I try to do also, support them back. Thanks for the great tips. It all makes sense to me. ❤

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      • Good to hear.

        Of course we all only tick the ‘Notify me of new comments via email’ box so we know when the author responds to our comment. Once they have done that I often then unsubscribe myself from receiving further emails on the post. It stops my email box being bombarded, on some occasions, with hundreds of other comments between the author and other people who have left comments. I have one post where there are over 150 comments. I hate to think about what some people must of thought of me in getting more and more emails from that one post just because they left a comment. It would be great if WordPress introduced a system where you could select getting comments only from the author when they respond directly to you.

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        • That would be a great thing. I do the same thing. I am following too many people again. More than 3/4 do not comment or visit me so I need to go through and get those sorted. I just can’t sit here going through emails for 4 hours a day and then write. It is almost exhausting. I must fix this soon. 🙂

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        • I went on a blog diet, Hugh. It was pretty terrible, but I feel like the number of blogs I follow is more manageable now. I had so many that all I could do was delete them. I never read them, and they did not read me or comment either. Now, I have time to comment on the people who comment on mine. Thanks for helping me through this again. ❤

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      • You’re welcome. If you can, stick to two hours of reading blogs every day. I’ve never encountered anybody I support, so far, who was not happy because I missed reading one of their posts. Those are the true blogger friends.

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  11. I rise each morning at 5:00 a.m. to enter my space of still and quietness to meditate. When the sun rises, I head out for a mindfulness walk through my neighborhood where I commune with nature. It’s the jump start I need each day.

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    • That is fabulous news. I have been trying to do much the same. I really need that time and glad to hear that it is helpful to you also! ❤ It helps me deal with the stress of everyday life.

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