A Tale of Two Bloggers

Wendy and Colleen

There has been much said about bloggers meeting one another in real life. One area of thought says that most bloggers are not the same with their online community as they are with their “real” friends in the flesh. I have even read the thoughts of a fellow blogger who said that you could never be “real” friends with someone you meet online because bloggers never share their real personas. He felt that most people were fakes and didn’t really let you know them as they truly are.

That is really a sad state of affairs. I have always tried to just be me on my blog, and I believe everyone else I have come in contact with has presented the same to me. Some might say I am naive… others will say I am a realist. I like to think that we all should connect in this life the best way we can. Life is too short to hold yourself back!

Spice charmed Wendy… or should I say Wendy charmed her?

Last summer a group of British bloggers (who I happen to adore) held their first “Blogger’s Bash.” They got together, met in real life and absolutely had a blast! In fact, they have the 2nd Blogger’ Bash scheduled for June 11, 2016! I would love to attend, wouldn’t you? If you have a chance to meet a fellow blogger, do it! What are you waiting for?

So, I now have the ammunition to dispel all the myths! I am proud to announce that my experience meeting fellow blogger and friend, Wendy Anne Darling was just as I imagined it to be. Wendy and I had an instant connection because we knew deep inside each other from the words we had written on our blogs. It was pure magic!

Even though we grew up on totally different continents, (Wendy in the U.K. and me in Wisconsin in the U. S.) and led lives with many of the same interests (bookkeeping, accounting, paralegals, reading, writing, etc.) there was a special connection that most people don’t get when they meet for the first time. We have our blogging world to thank for that.

We had a marvelous day brainstorming ideas, thinking up magical places, and planning out next adventures! There is something about a friend that shares the same interests as you. You can talk about crazy creatures and mystical things and they don’t look at you sideways with a raised eyebrow! Instead, they come up with an equally fascinating creation all their own!

And, guess what? I now have my very first signed copy of a book from an author I know and love!

Wendy and I went to lunch at “On the Border,” a Mexican restaurant that is a favorite of mine. We had some great laughs about driving on the wrong side of the road, or was it the right side of the road? LOL! We both had a chicken mango salad that was fresh and tasty. The dressing on the salad had hints of cilantro, lime, and a bit of garlic. It was extraordinary!

The truth be told, I could not stop talking! We had so much to share and collaborate on. We both love Dr. Who, Star Trek, fantasy novels, YA fiction, and mint chocolate chip walnut cookies! It just doesn’t get any better than that. You just never know what will happen when two creative types get together. 😀

Luckily, Wendy and I only live a couple hours aways from each other. We have made plans to rendezvous again this spring! I can’t wait. I wonder if I can get her to drink tea with me? The answer to that puzzling question will have to wait until next time!

Thanks for stopping by! I enjoyed seeing all of you and sharing my great visit with Wendy.


About Colleen M. Chesebro

Colleen M. Chesebro is an American Novelist & Poet who loves writing paranormal fantasy and magical realism, cross-genre fiction, syllabic poetry, and creative nonfiction. She loves all things magical which may mean that she could be experiencing her second childhood—or not. That part of her life hasn’t been fully decided yet. A few years ago, a mystical experience led her to renew her passion for writing and storytelling. These days she resides in the fantasy realm of the Faery Writer where she writes the magical poetry and stories that the fairy nymphs whisper to her in her dreams. Colleen won the “Little and Laugh” Flash Fiction Contest sponsored by the Carrot Ranch Literary Community on November 2017, and in 2018, she won first place for the “Twisted Travel” category. Colleen lives in Arizona with her husband. When she is not writing, Colleen enjoys spending time with her husband. She also loves gardening, reading, and crocheting old-fashioned doilies into works of art. Learn more about Colleen on colleenchesebro.com.
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  1. How wonderful when we get to actually meet the people who’ve become our online friends. I only wish I could attend the blogger’s bash to meet some of my wonderful blogging friends. 🙂

  2. I’ve met two fellow bloggers now and they are even nicer in person than online.Reinforces that you do forge bonds of friendship through blogging.

  3. Sounds like you had a great time. I’ve met a few bloggers in the real world, too, and had similar, positive experiences. Hope to see you at the Blogger’s Bash in London 🙂

  4. Hi, Colleen and Wendy! Lovely creativity! 🙂

  5. I really don’t believe in general bloggers don’t present themselves authentically. Writing like that, in the mind of someone not authentic would just be too hard to keep up for long. Anyway, your real meet and greet sounds like so much fun. It’s very cool you were able to do it!

    • Hi Deborah, thanks. Wendy and I hit it off on the blogs over a year ago when I reviewed her book. Isn’t funny how like minds seem to find each other. I am glad you stopped by. Great to meet you! <3

  6. The blogging world is made up of real people. Meeting any of them, with whom you have an online relationship can only be better in person. What a marvelous opportunity for you two. I have read of other bloggers meeting and having wonderful shared experiences. <3

    • I think we share so much of the real “us” that other people who know us in real life don’t see. Through blogging, we are able to express ourselves in ways that are above simple talk. It was the best time. I hope you get a chance to meet a few folks you have come to know. I am so glad you stopped by. Thanks. <3

      • You are correct. I can’t imagine someone putting up a front for such a long time and not show cracks and holes if they are not being themselves.
        Glad you had such a wonderful engagement. I’m sure there will be more meetings going on over time for lots of us.
        Heartwarming to read about your good experience as I have about others in my area.

  7. Sounds like fun. I’ve had the same experience meeting fellow indie authors. Lots of interesting personalities, sometimes in a single person 🙂

  8. Spot on Colleen. When Sacha mooted the idea of the Bash the biggest worry was it would reveal a bunch of drongoes and sociopaths on day release but as others have said what you read is what you get with a majority of bloggers. Glad you’ve met up and remember London is only a short hop from Wisconsin!. And you’re welcome to stay!

  9. I enjoyed this….and having met quite a few blog friends in the flesh, have also had wonderful experiences…..Thank you, Janet. x

  10. Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    Colleen and Wendy proofing that friendship that is forged in the virtual world is even better in reality.. Great post.

  11. I agree with you that if we are not our real us when writing then it’s not worth reading. I old enjoy to meet, but it had to somehow planned how to get in personal contact. Otherwise I would just stand there looking

    • Hi, Maria. Wendy and I messaged each other and exchanged addresses and phone numbers beforehand. She is about an hour away from me so we felt comfortable because we had talked to each other for over a year. It was a great experience too. If you get the chance to meet a blog friend, I hope you do! Thanks for stopping by! <3

      • Thank you for your kind answer. Here in Denmark we are not so many bloggers but I feel much more attached to people like you. But the distances are big. I have a facebook friend who I only met last year. We correspond a lot on messenger on many subjects. We have become very close friends

  12. I popped over here from Beth having reblogged. I had the opportunity of meeting fellow blogger, Belladonnatok (American Soustannie americansoustannie.wordpress.com) late last year when she was in Johannesburg. We had a similar experience – we couldn’t stop talking. I was supposed to have taken an Uber home – she drove me so we could carry on with our conversation. What was supposed to have been a cup of tea and a chat turned into three odd hours of long, deep conversation about lots of things. She is now back in the US and going through her own journey and I was pleased to have had a little time with her as she prepared to confront what lay/lies ahead.

    Great story, Colleen, thanks for sharing it.

    • Hi, Fiona. I think your experience is another example of the deep connection we make on the blogs with one another. She felt comfortable enough to share those deep dark secrets. That is a special bond, I think. I am so glad you had that time together. Thanks for popping in. I am glad to meet you! <3

  13. This is such a warm post. I totally agree with you that life is too short to hold back yourself and try to be someone else. Too much waste of energy and time. I hope that I get to meet up as many blogger friends as I can soon.

  14. Wow! Lot’s of responses to this one. I think bloggers in general are more honest. They risk nothing to do so, really. If I bare my soul and you don’t like me, you just stop following and move on. It’s that easy. I think people in general can unload stuff that has haunted them and let if go into the universe. It can be scary as it was for me but very healing.

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  16. Oh Silver, don’t we need a bloggers bash in the U.S.! I’d love to meet you and Wendy.

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  18. So glad you met a kindred spirit. Blogging is about connection, not stats.

  19. I’m absolutely thrilled you had a great time. I just knew you would. It’s wonderful you got the chance to meet, it really is. Thanks for sharing the experience with us <3

  20. I’ll be honest with you all… I feel like I’m all hopped-up on something! I believe it’s pure joy; that most potent of drugs. 🙂 I don’t want to come down from this high!

    Simply meeting up with Colleen after all these months has made me realize that it’s all REAL. It isn’t a dream. A writer is NOT what I’m someday going to be. It’s what I AM.

    It’s like something from Doctor Who – Time has reset itself.

    The Muse is no longer whispering in the wind… she is a raging tempest.

  21. thank you for posting. I am new to blogging but find that I connect with several of my fellow bloggers and that is a precious thing. I met my wife online, there were those who tried to sabotage our relationship from the get go. I was still married to a psychopath and then there was the online community who repeatedly tried to part us, neither of us had ever been in a same sex relationship before but we proved all the doubters wrong because that was in 2008 and now we are married and are stronger than ever.

    • What a wonderful story! Good for you. I do understand both sides of the coin. In today’s world, you must be careful to check people out. After 2 years of blogging, and knowing the folks I talk to daily from that interaction I feel pretty safe. <3

  22. I don’t expect less when we meet. I know you will be as real as night and day with splashes of your magic. LOL. Hello Colleen, I imagined both of you like two excited teenagers and I enjoyed the pix I conjured. Lovely post.
    Hope Spice didn’t follow her back to the UK

    • LOL! We both live in Colorado now, so no chance that Spice will leave, or at least stray too far. How are you my dear Frances? I have missed you so. Life is just too busy. Glad to see you now! <3 And, yes… we would all have so much fun together if we could meet up! I would love it!!!! <3

  23. Oh what fun, Colleen. Now you know what it felt like when I first met the bloggers at the Bloggers’ Bash. Couldn’t stop talking all day because we all had the same interest. Now you’ve done it, keep doing it. There are some wonderful people here on Planet Blog and many of them really do make the sun shine on the greyest and darkest of winter days.
    So glad to read that it went so well.
    xx 🙂

  24. What a brilliant day and so happy for you both! I think sometimes you just know you’ll get on if you have so much in common and shared values – great you had a chance. I was away for last summers bloggers bash in London but hope to attend this year. Should be very exciting!

  25. It sounded like a blast. Meeting up is the best idea. No way can it go wrong. Thank you for sharing.

  26. Mint chocolate chips? Nom, nom! 😉 Seriously, how long could one pretend to be someone other than who they are? And why would you even want to? I think it is spectacular to meet up with blogger friends. Some people are suspicious and doubtful of others (doubtful of their own judgement I think if they make an across the board, general statement about all bloggers), some are more intuitive and trust themselves to ‘just know’. Pretty sure that last character describes you. And me. Good to hear it was all you expected and more!

  27. That gentleman is nuts. What would be the point of being someone other than yourself? The one thing I can say about my blog is that it is authentically me. Not any of us go through life never holding something back, but that has nothing to do with blogging.
    That salad sounds delicious. I have met people in person that I met online. It is great fun.

    • I think some people are just unhappy and can’t see the happiness of others. I agree with you. I could never hold back who I am. It would be crazy! Thanks so much for agreeing with me. I think we all feel the same way, really! <3

  28. What a lovely tale!

  29. I hope to attend the Bloggers Bash in June and look forward to meeting you there. I’m originally from London but live in Norfolk. Loved your story and would like to make some new friends too !

  30. It’s so interesting to me that anyone would think that bloggers’ meetings would not go well, since “we don’t know them as well as friends in real life”. Really? I am sure that many of us share things in our writing, things that come from the heart, in an even more personal way than in some of those “real” friendships. I knew you’d have a great experience, Colleen. So happy for you. ☺

    • I was blown away by that particular gentlemen’s blog post stating that bloggers could never be real friends. It really bothered me. Some of you know me better than my own flesh and blood! LOL! I certainly share deeper subjects on my blog than I have with relatives in person. 😀 <3 The funny thing is, I feel more accepted with all of you than I ever did with my family. Just goes to show you that like minds are drawn together! <3

  31. such fascinating story and always great to meet friends…wonderful post..

  32. wonderful! I always feel my blogging friends know the true me as you said- “we knew deep inside each other from the words we had written on our blogs.”

  33. This is so cool! I am a little jealous. Lol

  34. It is so wonderful to meet friends, we feel close on our blog, also in person. I experienced that last year and I when all works out I will meet a bunch of my closest friends in June in London. I am defintely going. It would be wonderful if you could make it too, Colleen!

  35. Of course we are real people, what would be the point of airs and graces?

  36. Wonderful! The Bloggers Bash was indeed a brilliant day and the people exactly how you imagine from their writing. As it happens…and all being well… I’ll be having four separate meet-ups over the next two weeks with blogging friends… some for the first time … and I can’t wait 🙂

  37. Sounds like you had a blast. 🙂

  38. Lovel, Colleen and I’m sure the tea date will go just as well. I’m hoping to make it to the bloggers’ bash in London this year.

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  40. Awww, I am so happy to hear you had such a fabulous time with a fellow blogger 😄. Like wise, I’d like to believe I’ve met some pretty real bloggers here. It’s a pleasure to read about your visit and hope you do get to have that tea date soon. 🙂

  41. Sounds fantastic. 🙂

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