Mindful Monday Healthy Living – “Your Well-Being Matters,” by Erika Kind
Welcome to Mindful Monday – Healthy Living! Each week I try to examine new or sometimes old things about myself on my journey to becoming healthier. I have found that being mindful encompasses the act of being watchful, aware, wary, heedful, alert, careful, or attentive, in whatever area in my life I feel it applies to, as I attempt to live in the present. Come and join me on my journey. You never know what you will learn about yourself.
…to all of you who have left comments and cheered me on and are interested in accompanying me on this journey to healthy living! Together, we can offer support and ideas to make this road to “healthy,” a fun journey!
My hope is that you will all visit the posts of everyone who participated last week. You can find their blog links and comments on last week’s post HERE. Stop by and say hello! You just might make someone’s day!
Each week I want to share one of your links or comments that motivated me:
Bee included an excellent video about teaching meditation to children. I LOVED the video and really found it to relaxing and calming. Wait until you hear what the kids have to say! 😀
“I apologise for somewhat short Mindful Monday posts at this time. As I said last week: I have been busy, and I need time to calm down and find my balance again.
Still I want to take part in Colleen’s Mindful Monday, and I am aware that many of you want to teach Mindfulness to their children. I have found a film that is based on a book about Mindfulness for Children called “Planting the Seeds of Mindfulness” by Thich Nhat Hanh.
It has the same title but isn’t released yet. It still needs some funds to be released. You can find out more about it here. (It also shows you what Tina Turner is up to lately )
They have released a trailer so far, and I think it is an excellent reminder of how Mindfulness works.
1st Planting Seeds: The Power of Mindfulness Film Trailer by MindfulCloud PBC.
In this sense may you have a mindful week!”
Thanks so much Bee for sharing such an inspirational post about mindfulness. ❤
I am currently buried in my writing (when those fairies speak you have to listen) so I asked Erika if I could share a post that she wrote on her own blog (CLICK HERE to find the post on Erika’s blog). Erika’s post really spoke to me and it was exactly how I felt – OVERWHELMED! You see, I still think I can do it all when in reality I can’t. How many of you feel that way too?
So, I am taking Erika’s advice and taking care of me today. I feel fine and am progressing well with my healthy journey. I have kept the “evil pig” at bay for two weeks now and I am seeing great progress! Read here to learn how you can control your inner pig!
I inspired myself to this post when I had to set priorities in my currently busy life. I learned that many years ago when I found myself surrounded by too many activities. It happened step by step unnoticed until it got too much. It is related a lot to the lesson of saying No:
You love what you do. You really love it. You are proud of what you are achieving ever day. You are versatile, doing this and that. There are so many things you want to do in your life and you are not only talking about it, you are doing it. Things work out, projects succeed and grow. That is wonderful but all of a sudden the many projects can get too much and I don’t even threw life in yet. When everything grows it can be overwhelming because you are still only one person. You still have only 24 hours a day. But you also still love all you started.
After a while, you notice that instead of gaining energy, it draws energy from you. You feel stressed out, get nervous, perhaps you even notice physical reactions. That’s the moment when you need to say stop. A very difficult decision. Because what you built might be running by itself and you are running with it. You might be even part of something and to admit that it is too much for you can be tough. Perhaps you look at others and ask yourself how they can handle it all. Your frustration about yourself grows and the you work even harder to keep up with everything or even start something new in addition. Things get worse! You are getting exhausted and your nerves are reaching their limit. You are losing your excitement, your joy, your inspiration. Stop, before you completely break down.
Are you sure that those others you admire are dealing better? Or aren’t they too pretending that what they are achieving every day is a piece of cake? Perhaps and perhaps not! So what? Here it is about you! Whatever change you are making the ones who matter, don’t mind and the ones who mind don’t matter at all.
Yes, you might be doing what you are doing for others with all your heart. But don’t feel obliged to destroy yourself in order to not disappoint someone. You won’t! There is more understanding around than you might think! What is the reason that your projects are successful? Because others appreciate you and what you are doing. That means YOU MATTER! Everyone for whom you matter wants your well-being. They know that only then you can keep up what you started.
If you force yourself to keep up something up that you don’t feel anymore then nobody will feel it anymore. Something is missing, your spark is missing!
What is an action worth if it doesn’t come from the heart? Where does it come from when not from the heart? It comes from nowhere. It is like an empty bottle. You see this empty bottle and the frustration grows again. You are not content anymore with what you are doing and things develop in the opposite direction. The power has gone. But we need to be power in order to give power. We need to be what we want to give. And if we are not what we want to give, we should not try to give it. It only wears you out.
It is not selfish at all to care for yourself. It is the only right thing to do in order to enjoy what you are doing. Only when you enjoy what you are doing, it contains your passion. And you need passion in order to fill your actions with YOU! Time-outs are not a sign of weakness or failure. The are a sign of taking you and your purpose serious. You need to take care of yourself in order to be what you want to give. You can only be there for others when you are there yourself! An empty shell is of no help. The more important a person is for others the more important their well-being is.
If I want to serve others, I need to serve myself in the first place. I have to find places where I can charge my batteries, where I can fuel my happiness and my positive outlook. I need to take care of myself. Because only when I feel good I can be who I want to be. Only when I am strong, I can give strength. Only when I feel encouraged I can encourage others. I need to feel good in order to make others feel good. I need to shine in order to show others that shining is not a gift but an inner concept!
No, it is not selfish to spoil yourself. In fact, it is the only way to be exactly the person this world needs. Only when you stick to yourself, believe in yourself, be aware of that wonderful and unique being you are, you can serve others with your gifts and your light. You have something within only you can give in your special way.
If you see someone being exhausted, wouldn’t you tell them to take a break, to take time for themselves? Wouldn’t you suggest they should change something in their lives? Wouldn’t you tell them how amazing it is what they are doing day by day and that you are asking yourself where they took the power to keep it up? Wouldn’t you tell them that it is not at all a sign of failing or weakness but a natural consequence? Wouldn’t you assure them that you totally understand and that it is so much more important that the care for their well-being in order to give what you so love about them?
Why are we so understanding for others but think different, when it comes to ourselves?
Take care of yourself. Take a break, slow things down, through things our of your life. The most important thing in life is: being happy and being appreciative…. to yourself. When you are filled with enthusiasm and smiling from within then all you do contains this magical part of you that everybody loves about you. Keep that fire burning. And when the flame burns lower, step back, take a break and fuel your fire.
Your well-being matters because you matter!
In Love and Light, Erika ❤
Are you looking for more inspiration? Here is a link to Erika’s books on her blog. You will find great motivation for everyday living and LOVE connecting with Erika. Enjoy!
Thank you, Erika, for allowing me to share your common sense attitude about taking care of yourself! We all are just too hard on ourselves. I appreciate your kindness! ❤
I hope everyone has a wonderful week! If you would like to join me in your own healthy living journey, please do. Use whatever program works for you. You do not even have to follow a program if you don’t want to. The whole idea is to start thinking about ways that you can become healthier and fit. This includes going gluten-free, fat-free, lactose-free, starting an exercise program, or even a new way of eating such as becoming a vegetarian. If it has to do with becoming healthy, write about it!
How about you? What are your healthy living goals for the week?
Remember, this is not a challenge. Each of us has different goals that we wish to attain. This is an offering of support and a place where my online community can come to participate in attaining a healthy lifestyle. If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday – Healthy Living goals you can do so in the comments, or on a separate post of your own making. If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so, however, it is not necessary. Each week I will include a link to the previous week’s post where readers can find your links and comments from the previous week. My main aim here is to give and get support to become more mindful of my journey to healthy living.
Thanks for being part of my fabulous journey to a healthy lifestyle. Don’t forget to share your journey. ❤ No matter what your goals are in becoming more healthy, together we can do it!