Conversations With Colleen: Meet Author, D. G. Kaye, (aka Debby Gies)

Conversations with ColleenThe October Edition

Hello everyone! This week I’m happy to share with you, my dearest friend and Canadian author, D. G. Kaye, (Debby Gies) as my guest. Debby puts up with my silliness every day, so when I begged asked her to pick three or four questions from my huge list HERE she was willing to give it a go.

We all aspire to be successful authors and the best way to learn some of the tricks of the trade is to ask questions. Debby has answered so many of my questions about book publishing that between us, we could write a book!

As many of you know, Debby also shares her goodwill through our blogging community by sharing our posts across the web and in the various Facebook groups, she belongs to, and by always cheering us on. I don’t know what I would do without her love and optimism that she sends out into the universe every day. ❤

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Debby is also a member of the Sisters of the Fey blog, a group of eight authors who came together to share their love of all things magical. Debby’s specialty is writing about angels. Check out this post HERE and see if your angels have been connecting with you!

Please welcome my dear friend, D.G. Kaye:

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Author, D. G. Kaye

Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, sharing the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.

When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.

Thank you so much, Colleen, for inviting me over today as a featured guest on your beautiful blog. I know I always enjoy reading about how other writers started out writing and the bumps in the road they’ve encountered along the way and how they succeed in overcoming them, so I do hope some of my answers will inspire others. 😊

Hi, Debby. I’m glad you’re here. Now, I have to know… Have you ever destroyed any of your drafts?

 

Absolutely not! My writing life is similar to my real life – I’m a packrat, lol. I learned early in my writing career to never delete anything. There’s a space for everything . . . eventually.

We should never delete our unused work because there are always valuable morsels we can use at a later time. I have many journals filled with writing ideas and articles I haven’t yet published, as well as many deleted parts from early drafts in my books which I keep in a file. I’m a hoarder when it comes to keeping original earlier drafts of my manuscripts too. I’ll usually highlight parts that weren’t used in the final drafts and copy the passages on to a Word doc for future considerations. One never knows when there’s a nugget of value from past work that can fit in somewhere else!

A packrat? I would have never guessed. Great plan, though to recycle what you’ve previously written. So, what does the word ‘retirement’ mean to you? Do you think writers ever retire?

 

Retirement means we’ve finished working – time to relax and not have to get up and go to work anymore. It’s a time where we’re free to pursue our hobbies and anything else we feel we want to be able to do that we couldn’t when we had our 9-5 jobs. But writing, for me, and most writers, I suspect, is a lifetime hobby or job.

Writing is a passion, not a job. It feeds our soul and we hope that our words and stories continue to feed the souls of our readers. It’s one of the few jobs that have no retirement age limits. In fact, I believe that some of our best writing comes as we age and acquire more knowledge and experience.

I agree. I think we become better writers as we age. How do you think your writing style has changed over the years?

 

I believe like anything else in life, practice makes perfect. Although us writers are often our own worst critics, always seeking perfection, there is always room for improvement and growth. We don’t always notice as time passes, our writing naturally evolves.

As writers, we are readers too and everything we read becomes our teachers. We learn from reading different author’s writing styles, words, and genres. In doing so, we tend to subconsciously pick up fresh ideas which we incorporate in our own writing, ultimately making our writing better as time passes.

I know from my own books how my writing has changed with each consequent book. A few of my regular readers have even commented to me that they can notice how my writing has grown with each of my books. It’s like everything else in life – with each new experience we grow.

Debby, do your novels carry a message?

 

I sure hope so! By writing about real-life situations and revealing personal wounds and experiences, and conveying how I overcame various obstacles in life from low self-esteem, emotional neglect, and over-coming some life-threatening issues – there are lots for readers to take in.

I hope my stories leave something for readers to relate to in their own lives encountering similar issues. My stories always include resolutions I adopted to overcome my issues, and I hope they can help someone else. So yes, regardless of which book I’m writing, there are always nuggets of wisdom passed down in my stories.

Many of your books talk about your difficult childhood. If you had to do something differently as a child or teenager to become a better writer as an adult, what would you have done?

 

Hindsight is always 20/20 vision, showing us what we’ve missed along the way until we look back. I loved writing as soon as I learned my alphabet and could read. I wrote little family stories for myself and cards for people I cared for and admired.

I wasn’t ever good at expressing myself verbally as a child because I was afraid to speak about my feelings, and I was never asked. I wasn’t afforded a platform to speak. But I knew inside I was very expressive and needed an outlet to express my feelings so writing became my method of communication.

Since I was a little girl, I wanted to be a journalist, but I never shared my aspirations with anyone and nobody helped to guide or encourage me to follow my passion. As I grew from a child to a teen, my family life grew more dysfunctional, and my goals became solely focused on moving away from home as soon as I could get out. Then I had to work for a living while also enjoying the experience of socializing with new people in new circles. My writing aspirations went on the back burner.

With no encouragement to pursue my writing, and convinced then that only famous people could write, I knew nothing about how to go about pursuing a writing career. I wished my parents had ever asked me what I wanted to be or do when I grew up or helped to steer me in the right direction. But I was never asked.

So, I discovered life on my own and went back to writing about my feelings and observations on life in journals and through writing poetry. My urge to tell stories never left. Thankfully, the writing bug never went away, and better late than never . . . I found my way.

Have you ever hit a rough patch in writing where nothing seemed to fit or make sense? How did you move through that period?

 

I sure have! When I was writing my short stories for my book – Have Bags, Will Travel, I felt as I continued writing some of my stories, they were becoming off theme. After first draft I printed out my MS several times and separated each chapter, looking for parts to delete or move around to try and make everything fit. But I knew the stories didn’t all fit in, and I had difficulties separating what can stay and what should go. It all became so overwhelming.

Thankfully, a few author friends who I’d discussed my dilemma with offered to beta read and help me out with their suggestions. After all was said and done, my book became half the size. But I kept all the deleted parts for material to consider for future writing. That’s why it’s so important to have other eyes on our work for feedback and discover blatant errors and wonky passages we often become blind to and stuck in.

I think my biggest problem when writing books are that my thoughts are always two steps ahead of myself. Too many ideas come to mind while writing, often resulting in straying off topic for me. Staying cohesive to the topic has been more of an issue in my earlier years of writing. And although I’ve come a long way in learning how to tighten up my writing, I’m still always learning.

I loved your book, “Have Bags will Travel.” It was a hilarious read. Here’s my review.

 

Debby 2018

Why I Write

I love to tell stories that have lessons in them and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences hoping that others can relate and find that we always have a choice to move from a negative space to a positive. We need only the courage to take the leap.

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Debby’s Favorite Quotes

                 “Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”

                 “For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”

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Please feel free to connect with D. G. Kaye on social media and any of her author and blog pages at: 

www.dgkayewriter.com

www.goodreads.com/dgkaye

www.amazon.com/author/dgkaye7

www.twitter.com/@pokercubster (Of course there’s a story to this name!)

www.facebook.com/dgkaye

www.about.me/d.g.kaye.writer

www.linkedin.com/in/DGKaye7

www.google.com/debbydgkayegies

http://www.instagram.com/dgkaye

www.pinterest.com/dgkaye7

Come and join our Literary Diva’s Library Facebook group for writers and authors

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D. G. Kaye’s Books 

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Click the Amazon Links:

Conflicted Hearts 

MenoWhat? A Memoir

Words We Carry

Have Bags, Will Travel

P.S. I Forgive You

Twenty Years: After “I Do”

k luv u bye Thanks for stopping by to meet D. G. Kaye. If you are looking for someone to follow and learn from, she is definitely that person. I guess I’ll have to share her. 😀 ❤

155 comments

  1. Debby, I ADORE the new haircut.

    I loved this interview. Kudos to you for moving past your childhood and exploring your passions. Wishing you all the best.

    Colleen, lovely interview. As always, you’ve been a gracious and generous host.

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        1. I do keep some of my early work and at times I do reword some of the stories and such. Usually, if it didn’t make the cut the first time, I see no reason to keep it around. I suppose I could ditch it in a folder on my external drive. 😀

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        1. I’ve lived all over the U. S. and this is the largest Asian store I’ve ever seen. They had fresh fish, lots of lovely veggies (I think I can get lemon grass here) and tons of frozen fish. I even saw the long purple Japanese egg -plant I love. I found incense for Buddha, so that made my day, too. LOL! I’m really a simple girl. 😀

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  2. Deb, I am thrilled you found your way into writing, however it happened. What a better place this world is, because you embrace your passions, to the fullest. I always look forward to where you travel, in both the writing world and the physical world. Love ya, Sis! ❤

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  3. A fabulous interview, just like Debby! I agree, we are always learning. I love how we share what we have learned in this amazing blogging community. Thanks, Colleen for letting us know more about Debby.

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  4. I was completely fascinated to read about Debby’s difficulties with writting Have bags, will travel. I have read it and it all flowed so well. I understand the difficulty with removing great information that just doesn’t fit into the story.

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  5. Colleen, thank you so much for inviting me here today to your beautiful blog. It’s always fun interacting with our blogger friends and it’s also rewarding to be able to share some of my own thoughts with others about writing. And may I say you did a fabulous job with putting together the post! ❤ ❤

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  6. That was a fun interview, Debby and Colleen. I also loved Have Bags will Travel, so whatever Debby did to keep the book on track and pull it together worked! It’s always a pleasure to learn new tidbits about writers that I think I know so well. ❤

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  7. One of the many takeaways here: Debby never destroys old drafts. Recently my editor asked me to delete a precious scene. In other words, killing one of my darlings.

    So, I will rework it into an article sometime, somewhere, so it’s never really dead. Yes?

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    1. Makes sense. I write pretty specific scenes so I don’t know if that works for me. However, if you often write on a similar subject I can see advantages to saving your deleted scenes. It all comes down to what works the best for us, doesn’t it? I’m sorry you had to kill a scene. That does smart! ❤

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    2. Yes Marian! You know the drill, lol. 🙂 You may have to cut your precious darlings, but because most of your writing is memoir, I have no doubts you’ll be able to rework or repurpose that bit at a later date, And probably you’ll be pleasantly surprised when you re-visit it. 🙂

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  8. I can understand that Debby may not retired because writing IS her passion. I was going to say she works very hard in all the social media, but I can also see that she is having so much fun in doing it. By having fun, we all get help from her. Thank you, Debby!! ❤

    I don't delete any files either. It got to a point that I date the files.

    Thank you, Colleen to have this wonderful interview. Hugs. ❤

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  9. Lovely interview with Debby. A lot if which I relate too. I too have come to writing later in life and It has changed my life in the most miraculous way. A friend once said to me You started to write when you were meant to, when your life experiences meant you were ready. I believe this is one of the most perceptive and positive comments I’ve had and I treasure his words.

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  10. Oh my! These days I always seem to be late to the party/meet and greet… Lovely chat with Debby and so much in common. I agree that writing as you get older is so much better.. A friend once said to me that you write when you are meant to, when all your life experiences have been gathered and you are ready. I believe this is one of the most perceptive and true comments I had ever had. An opinion to be treasured. x

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  11. Some brilliant information in this interview with Debby, Colleen. I agree that the more we write, the better we become at it. Debby is so supportive and helpful to her fellow writers. She has also encouraged me a lot with my writing. The world of blogging would not be the same without her.
    What I love most of all about Debby, though, is her sense of humour. It’s infectious, should be bottled up and sold. She’d make a killing from it.
    Hugs to you both.

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    1. Oh wow Hugh, I am truly humbled by your beautiful comments and compliments. Where would we be if we didn’t have support and fun friendships in this business. It would be a lonely life of seclusion for sure!!!! Hugs and more hugs! ❤ xxxxxx

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  12. How wonderful to see Debby here, Colleen! She is a talented memoir writer who expresses herself so others can relate to her through her books. She is an amazing person to have come so far from her problems and become a stronger person in spite of them. Hugs & love to you both! ❤️😘🤗

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  13. Thank you for this very entertaining and heartfelt interview, Debby. I can relate to keeping your feelings and thoughts to yourself as a child. I’m so glad that you have now found such a wonderful way to express yourself. Toni x

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  14. Great interview! Debby, I’m a packrat too :S Oh Colleen, I don’t blame you for going to Debby with lots of book questions – she’s a valuable resource! Oh and we’ll never retire as we keep writing… and writing… and… xxoo

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