Mindful Monday: Little Things

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I often joke about having teenagers in the house, and I’m sure everyone can relate to that at some point – the drama that never ends! But it’s not all raging hormones and family battles, and it’s important to remember, and even marvel at, the little things. Those declarations of love that equate to sunshine on a cloudy day. Every time one of my daughter’s leaves me a note, a few simple lines to remind me how much I’m loved – it fills me with unadulterated joy. I’m often overwhelmed by how thoughtful they are, and each message is a treasure.

Then there are letters, those gems that are always welcome – especially when they fall on the mat with a delightful little thud. An indication that, behind the envelope, there are words meant only for us. Whenever I receive a letter it brightens my day and I’m thankful. We may lead busy lives, but we’re reminded constantly how fortunate we are – even when the going gets tough.

As Colleen trusted me with the Mindful Monday message today, and because I really enjoy her glorious infographics, I’ve created one for you all. Just a few ideas on how you can inject a little joy and share your messages of gratitude.

Thanks again for stopping by. If you have any more ideas, or just want to talk about your experience giving and receiving notes, please leave them in the comments.

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Mindful Monday – Gratitude and Affirmations: A Powerful Pair by Marianne Coyne

Hello, everyone! It’s a joy to be with you here today on Silver Threading. When Colleen asked me to guest post about gratitude journals on Mindful Mondays, I was pleasantly surprised and quite honored. My first guest post – I was excited and raring to get to it! Then I sat down at the computer with my cup of coffee and thought, “Where do I begin?” Hmmm…I don’t seem to have this problem when I write posts for my blog, Leisure Lane. So I decided coffee wasn’t going to cut it, I better get out the big guns – CHOCOLATE! Ah, that’s better – you know what I mean?

I’ve always read that it’s good to write down what you want in your life, or the things you’re grateful for. I had never been one for writing in a daily journal. I think because it seemed like too much work. But I had no idea what too much work was until circumstances forced me into my present job.

Prior to getting this job, seven years ago, I had been on a four-year intense and wonderful spiritual journey. For the first time in years, I was experiencing peace, joy, and contentment. And fear, which had been my constant companion, had been nearly completely wiped away from my consciousness.

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As an artist and writer, this job was not really what I wanted to do with my precious time. But I had learned quite a bit on my spiritual journey, and so I decided that I would take my peace and my joy into this new job, and perhaps make a difference there. Boy, oh boy, was that naïve! Peace? Joy? That’s not what this grocery store ordered. They weren’t going to have any of that. Just stand in your spot and don’t say a word to anyone unless you’re selling the product we tell you to sell. That was their motto, and they were sticking to it. Needless to say there are a lot of discontented employees there, and little by little I was becoming part of that discontentment. The negativity is so thick you really could cut it with the proverbial knife.

After years of working in that harsh, negative, unforgiving, and demanding environment, I was losing everything I had gained within myself. I began to join in the grumbling and complaining. And a day off here and there was not enough to refill what was being sucked out of me. I was not only exhausted physically and mentally, but I was turning into something I didn’t recognize or like…a very negative person. And to make matters worse, I had cornered myself into this sort of retail position.

Then three years ago, I knew I had to do something. So I decided that every night when I got into bed, I would write down one thing…just one thing I was grateful for. I didn’t care what it was, just as long as I recognized a blessing somewhere in my day. So I found a little spiral notebook, and one evening I began…My Gratitude List.

 

I found out that I could think of not only one thing, but two or three – from a cool breeze, to the life and breathe of my son. Then the next night, I was grateful for air conditioning on hot days and heat on cold days; for my good health; for clean water…the lists began to get longer, as I began to find more things to be grateful for.

 

 

As this progressed, my gratitude journal began to turn into an affirmation journal. Gratitude and affirmations seem to go hand in hand. I began affirming not only the good that was already in my life but the good I wanted to come into my life.

 

 

Well, three years and four journals later, I still appreciate and affirm in writing. And I enjoy going back and reading the older ones. I can see what has come to pass, or happen upon something that I need reminding of.

If you have a gratitude journal, please let us know how it works for you. If you’ve never written a gratitude journal, I encourage you to begin now.

 

You can write in different colors, draw pictures, or cut and paste pictures from magazines that help you to envision the life you want, or things that make you happy. I’ve even added scripture verses, personalizing them with my name, or the name of a loved one.

Make it your very own. Utilize it whenever you desire…in the quiet of the morning to set your day; in the afternoon to refresh your day, or at night to meditate on your day. Don’t stress yourself about it. If you can’t write in it once in a while, be fine with it, and just do it another day.

This is your life, these are your blessings. Recognizing them, and engaging your gratitude and emotions in them open the door for more to come through to you.

The store hasn’t changed, but I’ve learned how to adjust my thoughts and emotions. Through keeping a journal, I’ve learned what I need to do to take better care of myself in that situation while inviting new and creative opportunities into my Life. That store will not always be in my life, but gratitude will be. Affirming the positive with our thoughts and words is what we’re built to do. We flourish and thrive from it. And that’s truly something to be grateful for.

Thank you for joining in on Mindful Mondays, and…

Until next time, may happy days abound!

Marianne

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Would you like to share your mindfulness journey with others? If you are interested in sharing your goals or aspirations, I want to highlight your journey here on Silver Threading. Send me an email at silverthreading@gmail.com and I will be happy to feature you on a guest post. This is our journey into mindfulness. The more we share and learn from each other, the better our journey becomes.

Remember, this is not a challenge.  This is an offering of support.  If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday goals you can do so in the comments, or on a separate post of your own making.  If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so, however, it is not necessary.  My main aim here is to give and get support to become more mindful of the things I take for granted in my life.

I want to give a very special thanks to Marianne for sharing her gratitude journal with all of us. I know that I am going to start my own gratitude journal and I hope you will join us! Have a fabulous week everyone!

Mindful Monday – The Path to Happiness


Welcome to Mindful Monday! Each week I try to examine new or sometimes old things about myself. I have found that being mindful encompasses the act of being watchful, aware, wary, heedful, alert, careful, or attentive, in whatever area in my life I feel it applies to, as I attempt to live in the present.

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Happiness is like an elusive butterfly, always flying just out of our reach, landing on our shoulder the next minute, giving us a glimpse of the joy that blinds us with its beauty. What is happiness? How do we get it?

Happiness is defined as how satisfied you feel about your life, and how good you feel each day. To me, happiness is a choice I try to make each day. This is a mindful choice, not just some random thought that pops up into my head as I drink my coffee each morning. Nope, it is something that I decide all on my own.

There are some days though, I just can’t go there. Usually, this means that I am overwhelmed, tired, or stressed! The days I wake up on the wrong side of the bed are the days that I wonder about happiness the most. How can I be unhappy? I just woke up and nothing has even occurred in my life to provoke my not being happy.

Much of our happiness is gleaned from our thoughts and actions. I find it interesting that we humans tend to get used to our life circumstances after a while. It turns out that circumstances do not play as large a role in defining our own happiness after all. Happiness is a skill that we can hone to fit into our life if we just take the time to practice it.

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Whenever I find myself questioning my own happiness is when I start to think about all the people and things that make me feel grateful for where I am at this stage of my life. That is when I realize that my happiness is in my own hands. I discovered that when I change my outlook on the world my thoughts become empowering and calming. I become motivated and productive. I am happy!

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Do you want to find out more about happiness? Check out hapify.com and learn about the science behind happiness.

Last week I talked about removing the like button from my blog. I tried it. It did not make me happy or anyone else happy. Guess what? I changed my outlook and the like button is back and here to stay. When I made that first decision to remove the like button, it was based on my needs, not anyone else’s needs. Once I read all of the wonderful comments for and against the like button, I realized that it was not about me. It was about my readers. You are important to me. You are who I write for. The like button is back and I feel much happier about the decision.

Would you like to share your mindfulness journey with others? If you are interested in sharing your goals or aspirations, I want to highlight your journey here on Silver Threading. Send me an email at silverthreading@gmail.com and I will be happy to feature you on a guest post. This is our journey into mindfulness. The more we share and learn from each other, the better our journey becomes.

Remember, this is not a challenge.  This is an offering of support.  If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday goals you can do so in the comments, or on a separate post of your own making.  If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so, however, it is not necessary.  My main aim here is to give and get support to become more mindful of the things I take for granted in my life.

Do you have any mindful goals this week?

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Mindful Monday-Are You in a Mindful Frame of Mind?

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Welcome to Mindful Monday!  I have found that being mindful encompasses the act of being watchful, aware, wary, heedful, alert, careful, or attentive, in whatever area in my life I feel it applies to.  Each week I try to self discover new things about myself.  This week, I am going to share 7 Things Mindful People Do Differently:

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Mindful Monday is all about getting in touch with your own goals about mindfulness.  This past week, I worked hard on getting all the tasks completed that I thought were important for the week.  I met most of my goals, however life got in the way for some.  There is nothing you can do about life and the way things shake out sometimes.  You know what?  I let people know that I would not be able to make the deadlines this week for a few things and then… I moved on!  I did not beat myself up, instead I accepted my imperfections and accepted that sometimes life just happens.  I lived in the moment and then let it go.

In fact, when I looked back at everything I did accomplish last week, I realized that what I thought were imperfections were simply snags in my path in life.  I had completed a fantastic amount of work around the house, (the painting should be done tomorrow Smile) and I had written some fabulous posts for my blog.  I actually appreciated what I had accomplished!  This was a fantastic feeling.  Show yourself gratitude for the person you are becoming.

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I have continued to practice mindful eating and the results are starting to pay off.  I drank 5 glasses of water a day, which is fantastic for me.  This has helped me recognize that I was more thirsty than I was hungry!  I am paying attention to my body.  Sounds simple right?  That is the whole idea with mindfulness.  The more you pay attention to, the more you understand about yourself. 

What are your mindful goals for this week?

Remember, this is not a challenge.  This is an offering of support.  If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday goals you can do so in the comments, or on a separate post of your own making.  If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so however, it is not necessary.  My main objective here is to give and get support to become more mindful of the things I take for granted in life.

Thank you for joining me in my pursuit of becoming more mindful.  I appreciate your support!

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Mindful Monday: Gratitude

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To me, Mindful Monday encompasses the act of being watchful, aware, wary, heedful, alert, careful, or attentive, in whatever area in my life I feel it applies to.

Today, I feel the need to stress just how much “Gratitude,” should figure into your mindfulness-equation when you are self evaluating yourself and setting goals.

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Reciting gratitude mantras is a way of affirming to yourself just how fabulous and special your life truly is.  I am blessed, beyond all means.  I am so thankful for where I am at in my life.

Take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate all that you have in your own life.  Can you feel the gratitude washing over you and making you smile?

The “Gratitude Mantras” image above comes from Integrative Nutrition.com. They have an excellent blog to check out for more information.

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My friend Colline, of “Colline’s Blog, hosts a Gratitude Project each week to remind us to be thankful of all the good things in our life.

Last week, I dealt with how ‘change’ sometimes makes it difficult for me to meet my mindful goals.  I decided, as long as I thought positive about meeting my goals, when real life got in the way, I had to let go of my own self incrimination.  All that did was make me feel bad about myself – never my intention to begin with.

In fact, one of my blog friends pointed out I actually had achieved a goal I had set for myself, which was to get the tile work done in my house.  Maybe not a mindfulness goal, but still a goal no less.  It is easy to overlook the obvious sometimes.

As the renovation work in my home winds down, I will soon be able to return to my normal pattern of life.  I am thankful for my fantastic husband Ron, who wanted the tile work and new Pergo floors, as much as I did!

What are you thankful for this week?

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For more on mindfulness, visit my friend, Jade the Mystic.  He has an excellent blog where you will find all kinds of guidance.

Remember, this is not a challenge.  This is an offering of support.  If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday goals you can do so in the comments or on a separate post of your own making.  If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so however, it is not necessary.  My main objective here is to give and get support to become more mindful of the things I take for granted in life.

Peace and Joy to everyone this week,

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Mindful Monday–Live Within Each Moment

In my weekly feature called, “Mindful Monday,” I like to share my views on becoming more ‘mindful’.  This encompasses the act of being watchful, aware, wary, heedful, alert, careful, or attentive, in whatever area in my life I feel it applies to.

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Last week, I worked on “mindful-eating.”  I slowed down and took my time, chewing and savoring my food.  I did try to sit at the table more, and not eat in my creative room while I was blogging.  I would say for the most part, my week was successful.  I found out that I could eat my salad with chopsticks, which was an enjoyable experience, and it helped me to slow down my eating.

This week my focus is going to be about dealing “within the moment.”  I am writing my first book .  It should come as no great surprise when I tell you that I expect too much of myself.  I push too hard, and then tire myself out. My creativity stalls and I am just… stuck, immobile.  When I talk about dreams, I am not kidding you. I do some of my best writing subconsciously.  It is not unusual for me to mull over plots, characters, scenes, all within my dreams.  However, this is tiring and I need boundaries.  I must work with my creativity – not against it.

Today, I practiced taking deep breaths and slowing myself down.  I worked on some good old-fashioned brain storming and wrote down many new ideas.  I realized that there is no time constraints on my writing.  I can take my time and move forward slowly.  Just because I have an unproductive day does not mean that I cannot write, instead it is a signal to slow down and live in the current moment knowing that this time will pass, and my creativity will return.

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My mindful plan for this week is to pace myself and live within each moment and take it for what it is… only a moment in time that passes quickly.  I plan on taking care of me this week with compassion, love, expanding my ideas and taking a breath!  I will slow down and appreciate my self-worth!

Do you find yourself in similar circumstances?

My mantra for this week is:  Enjoy the pleasant and unpleasant because each will soon change.

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This is not a challenge.  This is an offering of support.  If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday goals you can do so in the comments or on a separate post of your own making.  If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so however, it is not necessary.  My main objective here is to give and get support to become more mindful of the things I take for granted in life.

Gratitude and mindfulness go hand, in hand, so I would like to make this post part of Colline’s Gratitude Project.  Click here to learn more about Colline’s blog.

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Peace and Joy to everyone this week,

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Do Yourself a Favor…

The other day I read the best article by Martha Beck, “To You, From You,” published in the December 2014, Volume 15, Number 12 issue of The Oprah Magazine.  Martha and I have something in common – we both have a dislike of the holiday gifting ritual found at this time of year.  Don’t get me wrong, I think a few presents are fine.  I just do not advocate going into debt over a holiday – every year.  How many times have you felt drained from all the gift giving at Christmas?

Martha has a great solution. For every gift that you give someone else – also give a gift to yourself.  Nothing extravagant or ridiculous, simply something that you really want.  What do you really want?

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According to Martha’s article, a poll was taken on Facebook to find out what are the best gifts that you can give yourself?  Interestingly, almost all of the respondents asked for the same simple, inexpensive gifts: time, less-stuff, and acceptance.  These are some pretty basic requirements, and if you think about them they apply to all of us.

Do yourself a favor – give yourself permission to accept the following gifts:

1.  TIME.  Time to do what you want, when you want to do it.  Try 10 minutes a day sitting silently, meditating, praying, whatever gives you inner peace.  Don’t squirm or think about what you have to do, or what email needs to be sent, or what bill to pay.  Just sit there quietly for 10 minutes.  Set a timer on your stove or phone so that you can experience 10 whole minutes to yourself.  It is pure bliss!

2.  LESS STUFF.  I loved this idea.  The absence of things really is a good thing, even though it seems like we spend our whole lives accumulating stuff.  The last couple of years, after our last move to Florida, I purged things that I had been dragging around with me for years.  I cried when I got rid of some of old books, although I made sure they went to a good cause.  I found out that if I stored something in a bin in the garage for a year and never went out there to get it for anything, I really did not need it.  I donated many things to charitable organizations, or friends, or family in need.  Less stuff = less cleaning!  A real plus in my book.

3.  ACCEPTANCE.  What a wonderfully novel idea, give yourself permission to accept who you are, and who you have become without criticism or blaming yourself for past decisions.  When we attack ourselves we accomplish nothing except tearing down our own self-esteem, which only demoralizes us to the point of no return. Stop that.  Accept that you will do some things wrong in this life.  Learn from those mistakes and move on… just don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over again.  That is redundant and will cause you more pain.

The end result from the acceptance of these gifts to yourself is a sense of gratitude and self-respect.   I personally cannot think of anything I want more than that from myself, for myself.

Many thanks to Colline’s Blog and her Gratitude Project who reminds me each week how thankful for life I really am.

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Thanks for reading and stopping by.  I love seeing all of you!

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Gratitude Sunday–Patience, a Great Virtue

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Today is the day that I like to remind myself of the many things I am grateful for.  I participate in Colline’s Gratitude Project.  You can participate too!

My gratitude this week goes to anyone and everyone who is patient.  Patience is a virtue that few people seem to cultivate anymore.  If you are patient, then you are special and deserve all the recognition in the world!

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The holiday season is in full swing and it appears that everywhere I go people are cross with one another and rude.  I know that everyone wants to get the perfect gifts for their loved ones.  I understand that.  I just want everyone to breathe, and step back.  Relax.

Marketing has become a lifestyle. Recognize that and move on.  Respect your fellow humans and treat others as you wish to be treated.

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What are you grateful or thankful for this week?  Have you been patient?

Thanks for stopping by to chat.  I love spending time with you all!

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Gratitude Sunday–What Are you Grateful For This Week?

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Colline from Colline’s Blog, hosts a weekly Gratitude Project challenge that I really enjoy participating in.  This post helps to ground me and reassess myself each week.  It is exhilarating!

Thanksgiving is right around the corner which should leave everyone excited in the anticipation of a fine meal.  In addition, we should explore as a family what we are grateful for, now and as a reflection of the past year.  I try to look for the small things because they seem to always add up to the big things in the end for me.

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This week, I am grateful for medicine!

I have succumbed to some silly virus bug and I have responded well to the Alka Seltzer Cold tablets.  This got me to thinking about how easy it was for me to obtain some relief from feeling sick.  How many people in the world do not even have access to medicine or health facilities for illnesses much worse than my cold?

I thought of all kinds of horrible diseases that ravage the people of our planet and I felt humble.  I suddenly felt much better and decided it was time to get busy and meet my goals for this week!

What are you grateful for this week?

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Thanks for stopping by to visit.  I found the 20 Ways to Practice Gratitude on Pinterest.  If the image is too small to read, please click here to see the image.

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SoCS–“In” -spiration

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Linda’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday prompt this week was all about using the prefix “in,” any way we thought possible.  Inspiration came to my mind first… then infidel.  Crazy word combination so I am going with inspiration!

There are many types of inspiration:  holiday, writing, reading, clothes, decorating, etc.  I just want to concentrate on the act of inspiration and how to stay inspired.

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Inspiration is something that you must cultivate and grow if you want it to work for you.  Yes, we all have flashes of inspiration, although some people do not have a creative streak in them, and find inspiration a difficult craft.  The whole idea is to find ways to feed your creativity which then leads you to become inspired to do whatever you want to do.

I go to Pinterest often to find inspiration.  If you have not checked out what they have to offer you should.  Type in inspiration and be prepared to be taken on a wild ride of inspiration bliss!

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Thanks for listening to me ramble today.  I am a bit under the weather, even though I look forward to seeing you all again!

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